well here we are a new year and surprisingly everyone is following the typical NEW YEAR NEW ME routine, of course i don’t want to exclude myself. it seems to be a mindset everyone goes into that new year with every ear but end up repeating the same mistakes/habits setting the same goals and such. but, what exactly CAN we change? of course major life changes and goals take time to pursue and to even act upon rather than just think about, but are there any changes that we can act upon and keep ourselves moving in the right direction for the whole year? and yes, i mean other than that membership at the gym you got last week but then rewarded yourself with that number 1 combo at mcfatty’s (McDonald’s i mean)….don’t worry. we’ve all been there, on the verge of making some huge monumental improvement or commitment to our personal life and….sunk back into that same routine we are so very used to and comfortable doing. so what can help us make ANY changes or any slight movement in the right direction in order to really live up to the new person and new things we want to do in the new year?!
Small goals. that’s it. small goals that are attainable are honestly a great way to boost your self-confidence and to propel you in the right direction. and small goals are things that we CAN achieve in the set time we have. not the “its 2017! i need to get ripped in the next two weeks to impress my friends!” Which plays down to two weeks of pain and then quitting and going back to Netflix and whatever else took up our time when we were bored. No, small goals are things that you and me can accomplish and lead to accomplishing BIGGER goals. say for example your goal happens to be that you want to live a healthier life, well what are some small goals that can help work towards that? maybe getting a routine of hitting the gym 3 days a week, meal prepping a healthy meal say for those three days, or even 2 days if you want. and really committing to it. its easier to fool our mind into this by starting small. rather than jumping into a 5 day workout program, daily food intake that is recommended off that awesome website that has all these hits, why not work on something that YOU can do, not something someone else had the time to perfect for their selves? see everyone had to start somewhere right? even that person you look up to or athlete, had a beginners program or workout or small goals they worked towards before being where they are, so why not give yourself the same advantage? slowly work towards that goal and don’t give up, since our mind tends to talk us out of things fairly early on.
“ok we get it, if we wanna work out start out small, why does any of this matter to me? my goals don’t have to do with the gym, or healthy life and such, I’m fine in that area. my goal this year, is to expand my social circle! find new friends! enjoy life!” if that’s along the lines of what you’re thinking than good for you! i wish all the best. in fact this is something i personally always try to work on. but if you’re like me, there are times where i find it hard to make friends or to go out of my way to expand my network. so what has worked for me? im sure its different for everyone, but personally for me, i find starting small again works even in the area of social interaction. That’s hard for me to admit since i happen to be like the little energizer bunny, i tend to be everywhere at the same time, always mouthing off whatever comes to my mind, laughing, never taking things seriously, a little too much to handle for some. but, when it comes to making friends or reaching out to network, i try to tone things down and maybe even shut up for once. hard to believe i know, but it’s helped me gain amazing friends who later grow used to the normal side i have. the first mistake i always made was to shut out those that don’t have the same interests or anything in common with, often thinking “well there’s nothing i like that they like too….this isn’t gonna work at all.” but….gaining and making new friends and developing strong friendships is done by respecting and appreciating the differences brought to our life by new friends and such. the different things to talk about the new adventures we hear they have been on, really anything that we will be sharing will be new to one or the other. so something that hit me was that embracing the differences in fact sometimes taking part and trying that awesome new food joint your friends says is the best shawarma place ever might in fact….be the best shawarma place ever. doing everything and anything from trying new food, reading that new book, anything that really gives us a chance to try something new and appreciate our new friends makes our friendships and bonds that much stronger. so don’t be afraid in your search to try new things and to appreciate the difference that others will be bringing into your new outlook, because after all that’s how the adventures that we seek start.
so what are we excited for in the new year? any amazing trips planned with friends? any new courses/education goals we are taking that will lead to what we want to pursue? share if you want below! I’ll be sure to keep this blog a little more active this year!