Opportunity

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“we don’t all have equal opportunity, but we all have the opportunity to be better than we currently are.”

When I first ran into this quote, which comes off a video/audio piece on fearless motivation, I was thinking to myself, “well that doesn’t make any sense.” but as I continued to listen and kept thinking about it, it really hit home for me. We always underestimate how much we can do and what exactly we can accomplish, by saying and providing ourselves with excuses such as “well, I’m not qualified for that job, so why should I apply?” Or maybe we talk ourselves out of taking a chance, an opportunity, by simply thinking we have nothing so why should we even bother to start something that will require resources we currently don’t have. Another quote I always like to think about is this:

““If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be.” Dale Carnegie

when we think about it like this, I’m sure we all suddenly feel like questioning ourselves, “what am I doing right now? am I working towards a goal, a dream? anything important?” chances are we are barely surviving or maybe struggling to pay bills or again just simply going through the motions. But how exactly CAN we change anything in our lives if all we do is complain how everything is the same everyday and how we aren’t progressing or anything at all, if we aren’t even trying to change? see, change in itself isn’t easy, writing these pieces myself, I am in the processes of changing. Sharing these points is my way of changing, and doing more. I’m taking an opportunity to improve my writing skills, my interests, my dreams.

See opportunity doesn’t present itself to those who have lost hope, those who have given up on making a bigger impact. It’s not something that comes to you while not trying to reach higher and do more, opportunity comes to those who are seeking them. And once they find them, they conquer them and grow. Thus, taking their lives to a higher level. So attracting great things in your life, first requires us to put out great things, to offer great things to others. not to sit and complain. “If you are throwing out your story of hardship and bad luck, this universe is going to throw back more examples of hard ship and bad luck for you to deal with.”

So next time we wake up, ready to challenge our day, why not take chances of the opportunities that will come our way, when we start being positive and actively are hoping for something better. If we are trying our best, working hard, those opportunities will come. “This world will always reflect back to you, your very own attitude and beliefs.” So trying our best, putting forth that effort to be great, will always work out to our benefit.

 

Make sure you are Living

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Whenever I think about that quote, it really sends chills down my spine. Not because its something we can look at and just appreciate at a passing glance, but the reality of it really hits us at times and we choose to over look it. What does it mean to live? Rather than existing? Well the reason this hit home for me is because sometimes we really don’t realize how fragile life is. See once we are comfortable or not working hard towards some goal or dream, the comfort and the time that passes isn’t something we can get back. the most precious resource we have as humans, is time. But if we waste it, its over with.

Living is something we think we are doing when in reality sometimes we are simply just exisiting, repeating the same actions over and over, often feeling like we are in a rut. Wanting to change a rountine but never really getting around to it, always putting it off. And something we don’t think about and don’t want to do is taking a risk, maybe finding out where our talents really are, where we can have the biggest impact. But the comfort of life usually kills any thoughts of discomfort that will follow if we want to pursue a change. And rightfully so, why would we want to make our life uncomfortable? Why would we want to take risks when we can take It easy?

Because living is the reason we should pursue our dreams. If we are slaving away, working for someone else’s dreams and just getting by, do we really feel fulfilled? When we turn on the TV, and see the athletes or the people that are making a name for themselves and reaching goals, do we ever think “I wish I could do that?” I’m sure many of us have. The thing we don’t realize is, they didn’t reach their goal from a place of comfort.

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Do you think Michael Phelps reached his peak from a position of comfort? Or that Steve job started apple from a position of comfort? No! The struggle and the hard work was something they went out of their way to PURSUE. They worked hard, they knew the price and the patience and the struggle they would have to go through. Granted we only see the success, we don’t really see the hard work which usually puts the image in our mind that you have to be talented, or special to do those things. And that is where we are wrong, hard work is something that all our hero’s, people we look up to, have put in. They worked when others were asleep, they put in twice as much when others put in barely a half days work. see the only way to reach and do our best to find and pursue a dream, is to do things we haven’t done before. To try things we haven’t tried, and have always talked ourselves out of. when our mind tells us we cant do anything and we agree, it often puts limitations on us. and these limitations really come to fruition when we try to do something but already have failed in our mind. and so that carries over. The people we end up watching on TV, they worked past their limitations, they didn’t mentally stop themselves before even attempting the work needed to be put in to reach what they wanted to do with their life.

Our life is something unique to each person, so to simply exist and move along at regular pace Is something we unconsciously do. But isn’t it better to walk alone in the right direction for us, rather then the wrong direction with the majority? For instance think of something right now you know you excel at, you are good at. Now ask yourself, am I bettering myself and pursuing it? What are the challenges in the way? Are they ones that require hard work? and commitment? Is that why we are shying away? Are we perhaps putting up excuses that mentally stop us from trying? Not doing, but simply TRYING? We have to be careful not to view life as something that we can’t do anything about, because in reality we can make a difference, we can pursue our goals. People don’t want to read about the ones who inherited greatness, rather the ones who struggled and have a story that shows they worked hard to reach their goals. So next time you wake up, challenge yourself to do something different, to change your life, not simply think about it, or daydream at work later. Challenge yourself to perhaps live, instead of simply exist.chagne

Changes

well here we are a new year and surprisingly everyone is following the typical NEW YEAR NEW ME routine, of course i don’t want to exclude myself. it seems to be a mindset everyone goes into that new year with every ear but end up repeating the same mistakes/habits setting the same goals and such. but, what exactly CAN we change? of course major life changes and goals take time to pursue and to even act upon rather than just think about, but are there any changes that we can act upon and keep ourselves moving in the right direction for the whole year? and yes, i mean other than that membership at the gym you got last week but then rewarded yourself with that number 1 combo at mcfatty’s (McDonald’s i mean)….don’t worry. we’ve all been there, on the verge of making some huge monumental improvement or commitment to our personal life and….sunk back into that same routine we are so very used to and comfortable doing. so what can help us make ANY changes or any slight movement in the right direction in order to really live up to the new person and new things we want to do in the new year?!

Small goals. that’s it. small goals that are attainable are honestly a great way to boost your self-confidence and to propel you in the right direction. and small goals are things that we CAN achieve in the set time we have. not the “its 2017! i need to get ripped in the next two weeks to impress my friends!”streching-reach Which plays down to two weeks of pain and then quitting and going back to Netflix and whatever else took up our time when we were bored. No, small goals are things that you and me can accomplish and lead to accomplishing BIGGER goals. say for example your goal happens to be that you want to live a healthier life, well what are some small goals that can help work towards that? maybe getting a routine of hitting the gym 3 days a week, meal prepping a healthy meal say for those three days, or even 2 days if you want. and really committing to it. its easier to fool our mind into this by starting small. rather than jumping into a 5 day workout program, daily food intake that is recommended off that awesome website that has all these hits, why not work on something that YOU can do, not something someone else had the time to perfect for their selves? see everyone had to start somewhere right? even that person you look up to or athlete, had a beginners program or workout or small goals they worked towards before being where they are, so why not give yourself the same advantage? slowly work towards that goal and don’t give up, since our mind tends to talk us out of things fairly early on.gym_cardio_area_overlooking_greenery

“ok we get it, if we wanna work out start out small, why does any of this matter to me? my goals don’t have to do with the gym, or healthy life and such, I’m fine in that area. my goal this year, is to expand my social circle! find new friends! enjoy life!” if that’s along the lines of what you’re thinking than good for you! i wish all the best. in fact this is something i personally always try to work on. but if you’re like me, there are times where i find it hard to make friends or to go out of my way to expand my network. so what has worked for me? im sure its different for everyone, but personally for me, i find starting small again works even in the area of social interaction.new friends.jpg That’s hard for me to admit since i happen to be like the little energizer bunny, i tend to be everywhere at the same time, always mouthing off whatever comes to my mind, laughing, never taking things seriously, a little too much to handle for some. but, when it comes to making friends or reaching out to network, i try to tone things down and maybe even shut up for once. hard to believe i know, but it’s helped me gain amazing friends who later grow used to the normal side i have. the first mistake i always made was to shut out those that don’t have the same interests or anything in common with, often thinking “well there’s nothing i like that they like too….this isn’t gonna work at all.” but….gaining and making new friends and developing strong friendships is done by respecting and appreciating the differences brought to our life by new friends and such. the different things to talk about the new adventures we hear they have been on, really anything that we will be sharing will be new to one or the other. so something that hit me was that embracing the differences in fact sometimes taking part and trying that awesome new food joint your friends says is the best shawarma place ever might in fact….be the best shawarma place ever. doing everything and anything from trying new food, reading that new book, anything that really gives us a chance to try something new and appreciate our new friends makes our friendships and bonds that much stronger. so don’t be afraid in your search to try new things and to appreciate the difference that others will be bringing into your new outlook, because after all that’s how the adventures that we seek start.SDCC_2012_-_cosplayers_at_Sultan_Shawarma_(7613677308).jpg

 

so what are we excited for in the new year? any amazing trips planned with friends? any new courses/education goals we are taking that will lead to what we want to pursue? share if you want below! I’ll be sure to keep this blog a little more active this year!

We’ve all been there, really wanting to write something or share some ideas, or even simply get the feeling that we’ve accomplished something. Yet we don’t exactly know what to write about. We like to think and tell ourselves “hey! I’m a great writer. I can write about ANYTHING!”. So….why can’t we think of something to write about or engage our fellow peers in? usually the one thing standing in our way is over thinking. we overthink everything and dissect things till we lose motivation and convince ourselves that it’s too hard or we talk our way out of it. well hopefully these 5 tips can help when you find yourself out of ideas.

  1. Write down your ideas! I can’t stress this point enough. so many times we have a crazy amount of drafts or things we have started but haven’t finished or come back to finish up. and it happens, life sometimes gets busy and we forget that little article about why you feel cats are better than dogs. Or that story you had to share that taught you a very important lesson in an area that’s now largely impacting your life. whatever the case maybe, life will always throw you an extra ball to juggle when you get comfortable with what you have on your hands.
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    write them down anywhere you can!

    The trick is to write down those times you have those amazing ideas but can’t work on them. the reason being, you are sure to create a pattern and tap into that excitement and energy you had when you first got excited about your idea but didn’t have time to DO anything about it. Let’s take for example a friends texts you or messages you on your phone or any social media, and they have exciting plans for mini golf this weekend! or…like karaoke! whatever you like….I’m just throwing ideas out there…anyways, chances are after all the planning is done and whatnot you will be looking back at that message a couple times no doubt excited about your plans or maybe a little anxious about making yourself look silly in front of your friends because, let’s face it you probably don’t mini golf that regularly or sing…unless 3:30 in the afternoon after your morning shift when you’re belting out that new Justin Bieber song you hate counts, there’s a good chance you aren’t a great singer either. the point being, when the work day rolls around on Friday you might forget or suddenly get a text reminding you about your weekend activities, and all of a sudden your days goes quicker and you are just as excited when you got the text in the first place. the same can be applied for that great idea you have, if you write it down and find yourself bored or anything, open up wherever you wrote your idea down and add to it! or better yet finish preparing yourself for the time you have to share it with others! For myself I always forget and never write things down, but having a handy notebook or something even on your phone that you can quickly write down your ideas regardless of spelling mistakes since I mean..come on this is a great idea, will surely help you get in the habit of recording them with the intention of writing about it later.

  1. What should I write about? this is the fun part. ANYTHING. literally anything that you feel passionately about you can write about! the freedom of writing is that you can share anything you have on your mind with the world and chances are there will be those who appreciate or at least look at things a little differently. either way you would have learned a very important lesson, one that will carry over into other areas of your life. being organized and keep track of things will help you stay on top of important assignments or dates and things that you might ACTUALLY need to be writing down.thinking also, the purpose of writing sometimes is to express things in YOUR point of view. Sharing how YOU feel and handled something is a neat experience you can pass on. because you are one of a kind. anything you share will be felt/handled/taken differently from all your readers simply because it happened to YOU. so don’t be afraid to share, because if you don’t you sometimes talk yourself out of anything due to the fact the little voice that says “oh this happens to everyone, no one will want to read this” will take over and before you know it you forget or simply give up.
  1. ideaI have an idea! I even wrote about it! but…it’s not long enough. often this is another area that we encounter and try to tackle aggressively by simply just adding filler material. do NOT do that. your readers will know when you aren’t as passionate about what you’re saying anymore! and before you know it they will lose interest. so try to not give yourself such a huge work load! write about something you’re sure you can pour your experience and can talk about comfortably without having to use other things that you don’t want to talk about just to fill the space. sharing what you’re feeling strongly about will demonstrate itself throughout your writing and before you know it, you will know exactly what things you can write about for hours on end and what things simply interest you a little. doing so will also increase your knowledge base, since you will try new things and find out more about yourself!
  1. Well….everyone’s writing about this already. I want to be original! To be honest this advice probably could have stayed with point number 2. but it’s easily something that happens that it needs to be repeated and added. simply because 50 other people have shared the same story or experience or anything, doesn’t mean you are not original. it simply means there’s 50 different ways things could have happened or have happened. your story matters!
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    No one will wanna read it anyway….i’m an idiot…”

    how you felt, what happened, how YOU viewed things all contribute to originality. granted there may be times where you think that things happened to you exactly the same way as someone else, and that may be true. but there is more than one ways of telling a story, and your narrative and experience might just help the other person out in more ways then you know! building a sense of familiarity with someone JUST through writing is an interesting experience. and there will always be at least ONE difference to things where you felt different way about how things were going. so do NOT be afraid to share. worst case scenario you share your story and now you have a friend who has gone through the same thing. and understands perfectly what you mean or show you feel and how things turned out for both of you!goalkeeper

  1. Goals, Goals, Goals! having a goal you are working towards helps you out in allot of areas. for example, a goal of mine is to improve my writing materials quality and simply get a better understanding of how to engage a large audience. now in my day to day activities my personality is usually very charismatic and extroverted. so I do not have a problem engaging others and drawing them out. now being about to do that through writing can be difficult but that’s why it’s a goal I am WORKING towards. each entry (as few as they may be) help me get closer to my goal. your goal may be different, you may want to simply share and demonstrate your superior writing talents with the world! or maybe show off your insane vocabulary. or maybe you want to simply take up writing as a new hobby, whatever the case setting a goal that is attainable or one that will have you focused can increase your motivation and effort greatly! for example whenever I sit to write about ANYTHING, I think about what I want to accomplish at the end. Have I added a little bit of my personality into this piece? is it helpful to others? can someone read this and not have difficulty following my crazy thinking process? Things that I can actively work on help me set a goal and achieve it.

I hope these tips have helped you in any way, or you have taken a little bit of advice from this! please share any ideas below or maybe leave me a link to read something you’ve decided to share. I love reading anything that really helps me understand others better so don’t be shy. Also, to all the great mini golf players out there and karaoke people…..apologies. I’m sure you are great at what you do. so do you!

Rainy days

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Waking up with a slight cold in the air, we can usually tell pretty quick without opening the blinds whether its raining or is about to. the smell of rain itself is usually something that alerts us that it’s happened or is about to. for me personally, rain is something that is inviting and usually makes me want to go out and splash around or go for a walk and just enjoy it. i remember growing up thinking that there was nothing more fun then running around while it was raining and sliding everywhere and just enjoying it. maybe its was something fun to do as a kid but definitely something that stays with you. Another thing about rain is the fact it can be so scary, and can be very hostile at times depending on where it is we live. so to assure those who think maybe i enjoy it for simply its calmness, i understand the dangers it causes and sometimes can cause.

staying_a_kidgrowing up there were times when i thought the day was ruined if it rained. to a little child sometimes they can view rain as something that didn’t have a purpose and was just taking away the good days. the sunny days where we can run around, or go to the park, or enjoy a walk on a breezy summer day. but a majority of the time you can get away doing some of those activities IN the rain! there’s nothing better than having the quite sound of just rain and getting a chance to be in it and enjoy it for its beauty. just sitting and quietly listening to it can create a perfect atmosphere to maybe clear our mind, or simply stare in amazement at nature and how it works. As humans we depend on rain for everything it does, whether it’s for the simple necessity of food, or for the fact it brings forth all the beauty we get to enjoy on a sunny day, all the color and everything we love so much usually has to enjoy a good long shower before it blooms. no doubt the rain has a lot of benefits.

Rain in all its beauty, usually causes different feelings to arise in all of us. for me i can associate it with happiness at times due to the fact  it encourages the innocence we all had as kids to blossom and to enjoy it and take a break from whatever it is, is occupying our mind. or sometimes it can be a sad feeling, where we feel as if things are too much of a burden and life is slowing us down, to which sometimes we hide away, stay in bed, not feel motivated to do much, but at the end of the day, we know tomorrow is gonna be better. And as humans we always associate the end of something such as rain to say the bad times being over, or we liken the rain to our bad days, days where we can’t get something right, or feel down about something and rain only adds to the sadness. but even in that sadness, we look forward to seeing the sun again and gain all this hope and new appreciation for the troubles we are going through or the current weather.

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remember that every drop of rain that falls bears into the bosom of the earth a quality of beautiful fertility. – George Henry lewes

 

a quote I often like to think about when it rains is “some people feel the rain. others just get wet.” – bob Marley. and how true those words are. see some hate it and can’t see the good side in it. or are too stubborn to notice and simply take a break from their busy lives to notice something so beautiful in front of them. granted, in this world its hard to stop anything and appreciate something as simple as…well…rain. but if we do, the rewards are much better then whatever it is we are too busy doing to realize the beauty that is given to us for free. that quote also makes me think of how we are all so different, and that the simple things can be over looked by those in a hurry to carry out whatever it is they are doing. But the ones who enjoy the simple things usually find a way to find appreciation for whatever it is that is presented in front of them and find a beauty in it, or simply enjoy the feeling of it in the moment and make the best of it. and those are my kind of people.child-and-rain

so next time, if you’re in a hurry to go grab that coffee, or maybe stuck inside all day and need a break from all the work but its raining out, or maybe already outside and can feel the rain starting, or maybe listening to country music which is something you shouldn’t be wasting your time doing, take a quick break from the busy life you lead to enjoy the rain. take a minute to watch it fall and let it really give you a minute of clarity, you might just enjoy the rest of your day and be in a brighter mood after. and chances are that line for coffee isn’t so long anymore, or all of a sudden you have a million ideas on how to finish that project you spent all day working on, or your radio/iPod/YouTube station might suddenly realize there’s  no point in the country music you were listening to continue playing. either way whatever it is we are doing, take a minute to enjoy the rain.

Focusing on our goals.

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Excuses. we can’t make them unless we already quit. people think making excuses exonerates them from having responsibility to carry out what they need to. see, every time we make excuses we provide the world a look into our weaknesses. if we are focused, we wont need to make excuses. and we can achieve results. You might think what does this have to do with education? well when we are working towards a goal, we may at times make excuses if we fall short. or if we just fall short of reaching them.this is in fact where we need to try harder and work towards the next goal. education may be important, but that is simply one way to approach something. at some point, there has to be a way around the world’s view of education. looking at the meaning of education itself, “Education is the process of facilitating learning, or the acquisition of knowledge, skills, values, beliefs, and habits. Educational methods include storytelling, discussion, teaching, training, and directed research. Education frequently takes place under the guidance of educators, but learners may also educate themselves.” education is not something that can ONLY be done under direction. its something we can do our selves. we can educate our self in the area we want to pursue a career, or a passion, or a hobby. just simply putting our energy into it will help us get there. if we keep in mind, that anything that has ever been done…has been done by a human just as normal as you, then we can achieve the same level of success.

Tony robins a life coach speaker brings out how focus is what we need to achieve goals. and the truth behind his words is very compelling. if we are trying to create a future where we need to do our best or constantly be learning and achieve the goals we have set we need to focus. when we hone our intentions and our attention on our goals we will have energy, the type of energy that is needed to reach aforementioned goals. another way to do so is if we observe and take into account what others have done to reach their goals. you want to reach a certain level of expertise in something, observe. what have the people in the top of the line of work or the thing you are passionate about, what have they done to reach that goal? maybe your goal is to be the best public speaker. what have the leading people in the field done to establish their name? what have they done to be able to make the crowd comfortable to pay attention and captivate their minds? is it the way his questions are presented? is it the way he is keeping things relevant or light hearted? learn. take it upon you to develop those skills.

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Sometimes, we limit ourselves from what we can do by placing our own restrictions on ourselves. how you might ask? think of an area in your life where you wanted to do something, and your mind presented you with so many facts and things that stand in the way of what you want to do. granted the special few who put those thoughts aside are the very same ones we look up to. but how can WE do the same? we have to place our selves in their position. this is another challenge that is in the way to reaching my goal. and i am not going to let the fact my mind is saying no to stand in the way. we need to push past that stage, and if we do so – the next time we are determined to reach a goal, we will not only breach that barrier and push past that mental block, but we will reach whatever we set our minds to. focus. focusing on that goal, putting our energy into it will help us reach it. our mind may not be on the same page, the world may not be on the same page, our family may be against us, our friends, everything could be screaming there is no way to do this. but our energy, our determination, the drive to prove them wrong will provide us with the needed energy to reach that goal.

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