“we don’t all have equal opportunity, but we all have the opportunity to be better than we currently are.”

When I first ran into this quote, which comes off a video/audio piece on fearless motivation, I was thinking to myself, “well that doesn’t make any sense.” but as I continued to listen and kept thinking about it, it really hit home for me. We always underestimate how much we can do and what exactly we can accomplish, by saying and providing ourselves with excuses such as “well, I’m not qualified for that job, so why should I apply?” Or maybe we talk ourselves out of taking a chance, an opportunity, by simply thinking we have nothing so why should we even bother to start something that will require resources we currently don’t have. Another quote I always like to think about is this:

““If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be.” Dale Carnegie

when we think about it like this, I’m sure we all suddenly feel like questioning ourselves, “what am I doing right now? am I working towards a goal, a dream? anything important?” chances are we are barely surviving or maybe struggling to pay bills or again just simply going through the motions. But how exactly CAN we change anything in our lives if all we do is complain how everything is the same everyday and how we aren’t progressing or anything at all, if we aren’t even trying to change? see, change in itself isn’t easy, writing these pieces myself, I am in the processes of changing. Sharing these points is my way of changing, and doing more. I’m taking an opportunity to improve my writing skills, my interests, my dreams.

See opportunity doesn’t present itself to those who have lost hope, those who have given up on making a bigger impact. It’s not something that comes to you while not trying to reach higher and do more, opportunity comes to those who are seeking them. And once they find them, they conquer them and grow. Thus, taking their lives to a higher level. So attracting great things in your life, first requires us to put out great things, to offer great things to others. not to sit and complain. “If you are throwing out your story of hardship and bad luck, this universe is going to throw back more examples of hard ship and bad luck for you to deal with.”

So next time we wake up, ready to challenge our day, why not take chances of the opportunities that will come our way, when we start being positive and actively are hoping for something better. If we are trying our best, working hard, those opportunities will come. “This world will always reflect back to you, your very own attitude and beliefs.” So trying our best, putting forth that effort to be great, will always work out to our benefit.



Are you nice, or good?

We often hear “Oh that guy/girl is really nice!” or maybe when asked on the spot to describe someone you consider a friend we tend to over use the word.free hugs There is nothing wrong at all with that description, and I’m sure once we are thinking we use different words to describe our likes and dislikes of our friends. I read somewhere online “Niceness is an external action, goodness is internal. Don’t try to be a nice person, try to be a good person. if you’re a good person the niceness will manifest naturally.” After reading that, i completely realized how there is such a big difference. i always knew that people can act “nice” or “kind” but i never took it into further consideration.

When we think of what being a “good” person really even means, it tends to help with some self-reflection.  For example if presented with a situation requiring you to choose between doing the right thing and doing the thing rightly, being good means doing the right thing, even if it earns ire of somebody whilst being nice means doing the thing which other person expects of you or you think will make them like you more.” –Rudra Pratap Singh Panjeta No doubt you may not have thought of this before. Do you take action expecting recognition? Or perhaps we do the right thing, thus following our moral code of being a good person. In today’s society and way of living, its hard to find time to do “good” deeds, which is sad to think about. There are times where, you can notice someone doing something “nice” such as holding a door for a person following, or maybe picking something up for a stranger, or stopping a violent action being taken towards another person. dont just walk by These are all things genuinely good  actions people take, and make us appreciate these hero of our everyday life! So when we notice these kind gestures, do we take away a lesson to pass it on to the next person? In most cases, we may smile and think, that was really kind of that stranger!

For some, that’s as far as that thought goes, granted we may be a little happier, but we are quick to return to our phone or whatever device that will take us to the distraction we seek. And that is where sometimes “good” actions tend to die in the eyes of people. We may think, “that was really sweet” but are we determined to pass on that action? Do we actively right away look for a way to pass on said action, to genuinely want to help people? people distracted.jpg

My question to you is, do you strive to be a good person? Are we looking for the Adulation of being “nice”? See there are times where even our “nice” action may go unnoticed. what do we do then? do we quickly frown, or get a little angry that the person we just helped, or the act of returning someones lost possession didn’t get us a thank you? Or a much-needed smile? If we are focusing on just doing “nice” things and quickly looking around to receive recognition or someone to notice us, we may want to start looking at things a little differently. thinking.png If for example you help that old lady with groceries, or maybe hold the door for a distracted friend, or stranger, do we get sad they didn’t notice? or do we continue to smile and carry on our day? You see being “good” earns you respect, while just trying to be “nice” will be taken for granted many more times than you can count!

So as a goal, why not try to simply continue and enjoy the good mood you are in, instead of seeking immediate response to the kind, nice, great, caring, action you just took? Or the interest you’ve shown in the person who everyone was talking over? Why not simply nurture this quality of being genuinely a good person and passing it on? The rewards will be much greater than simply doing things just so other people notice us.

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Chasing happiness


Walking down the street the other day, I noticed an older Asian lady, walking with a small bag smiling and enjoying the day. It instantly made me happy to see her happiness radiated so well on her face and her actions and everything, it was contagious and i could tell right away she appreciated her day! How often do we walk past people like this who are genuinely happy and are just sharing that happiness with the world? And yet we are in our mind thinking about our job security or how we want to see a particular part of the world, or maybe how lucky these stars we follow on social media are being on that yacht or relaxing on a beach enjoying their life while we are here slaving away to our job and stressed. We choose to like the picture instead, not asking ourselves “well, why can’t i do that?” for some that question in itself makes us spiral more into a sad state as to our looks or our lack of talent in a particular area or whatever it is our mind decides to beat us down with. We come back to, “well this is all i can do right now, so i might as well not complain and just be happy”. But are we truly happy?

I often think about how successful people are always striving for MORE and still continuing to grow yet all we see is a new face in a new movie, or someone making crazy amounts of money on TOP of the already stupid rich account they have. And our mind instantly goes to, “aw man, if I had that much money there’s so much i could do.” and while that’s true, we fail to recognize the amount of work and challenges that person has gone through AND might currently be going through. we always focus on the materialistic things they have and how a large audience is paying attention to them, INCLUDING us! we never stop to think “hmm i wonder how many shots that athlete practiced to get to a point he’s making whatever amount of money hes getting paid.” we might think, “what!! how can he make that much money, man life isn’t fair.” and you’re right, life isn’t fair. life is….life. 111110-N-DR144-848Whatever you put into it is what you will get out of it, sounds cliché but let’s be real for a minute. have you ever ACTUALLY decided and committed all your time and energy to one practice for a crazy amount of time and ignored if people notice you or not and just practiced and did it every day? Chances are if you have, your skill will become something that is of value and can be turned into a profitable career, or can be of some value to someone who really needs your skill set. But chances are you probably went to school, entered the workforce after settling for a job you thought might be OK, and here you are today. photographer 2For the very lucky ones, you practiced writing since you fell in love with it, or took photos of things you loved, or developed a love of some field due to being inspired by someone you look up to and pursued it with everything you have. not being worried about your financial gain or whatever distraction might have come your way, and eventually made yourself happy and found a way to provide for yourself. most likely (myself included) we tend to stick to security, so finish school, find a job, save a little money here and there, and try to navigate this thing called life while day dreaming of other people’s lives and such.


Did you notice something different between the skills and things we learned, and the things we end up dreaming about doing?

writerThe difference is something we often overlook when it comes to work. and that is “love”. if you love photography, really love it, you’ll dedicate a huge amount of time to perfecting the art and whatever you want to share with others through your lens. you will invest in that thing you love so much that people may call you crazy, or may try to lead you down a different path. If you enjoyed that sport that you worked day and night to develop skill for, and joined teams, played with the best to bring out your potential and trained your body to handle all the challenges that come, you think you will have time to think about how “happy” other people are? chances are no. you will be happy, genuinely happy that you are doing something you LOVE.

Of course life doesn’t instantly get easier when we decide to pursue what we want to do, it still has its challenges and shortcomings, but learning from those mistakes and staying committed is what usually rewards those who  are focused. There will be days where we want to quit, or procrastinate and put things off for way too long, but at the end of the day we will be happy with the results and can always answer ourselves honestly when we encounter those times that we internally are judging and criticizing ourselves. Questions such as “do I really love this?” or “Is this all worth it?” maybe still plague us, but we can answer ourselves truthfully and reaffirm our love for that field or whatever it is we are following without doubt or second guessing ourselves.


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img-thing“a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.”

When we look at the definition of ambition, the words that jump out to us are often the obvious ones, yet we seem to overlook the words that we should really be taking into account. Are you thinking of the same words? When you read that definition does your mind right away notice the words “determination” and “hard work”? Of course those are very important aspects when we are trying to reach success or a goal that we have laid out in front of us. And no doubt they are the two factors that will perhaps result in our success or failure of whatever it is we want to accomplish. Yet, when i read that definition, the words that stand out to me are different, the words that draw my attention right away, as you’ve guessed it, are “strong desire”.

Now you might be thinking well its nice if you have a strong desire to do something, but that hard work and determination are what you need to focus on. But lets take a moment to really dive into having ambition and what it means to different people. Many people today aren’t as ambitious as they should be due to one factor. Its not that they don’t work hard, or that they don’t have enough determination, it simply comes down to WHY they want to do what it is they are doing. You might be determined and work very hard to pass that test you have coming up, but whats after that? Are you back to taking it easy? only having to work that same level of concentration again later when you need it? Or will you keep that level of hard work and studying up? You see many people are often surprised by how much they can do when they put their minds to the task at hand. Many have gone from thinking its “impossible” to “wow..i did that”. We might not verbalize it, but we will definitely be thinking it when we accomplish that task. So why is it that we cant do that for everything that comes up? Well it comes down to your desire, and how strong it is when it comes to choosing to chase something.

When athletes go into events or start their training routine, we might think they have it easy or that they are really talented, so that’s probably why they win so much. But no, its the hard work they put in when we don’t see them, its also their desire, the one pushing them to keep going when others stop or when others take a break. Sure they may be working hard, but your desire is what it comes down to. if you really want to win, and i mean win and better yourself, you aren’t going to stop because you’ve done more than that other person, you will keep going to better yourself and to reach that goal.  Reggie Jackson struck out 2,600 times but hes recognized for his home runs. Not the strike outs. Do you think his desire was hindered by the failure he ran into? or was he phased and continued to do his best regardless of what obstacle he ran into? reggie jackson

But lets use an example that we regular non athletes might run into much more often, lets say we want to improve our health, or physical appearance. Do we put in the amount of work worthy of the change that will occur? Or do we go to the gym here and there and hope our body will somehow suddenly change for us. are we constantly thinking about our meals and the preparation that goes into working hard even on days where we might want to stay at home and watch that new episode on Netflix? or are we quick to skip our plans and what effort we would have put in only to hangout with our friends and enjoy the social activities that enticed us to leave our goal? see when we start to develop a strong desire to do something, we always put it first, we always stick to our plans and to reach that goal our desire must keep us moving. when we give up easily or when we procrastinate it teaches our body, and we develop habits around that mental thinking, that there will always be tomorrow, or next week, or we put in enough hard work already so we deserve a break. our mind will begin to convince us that we don’t need to eat healthy, or maintain a daily exercise routine, because we can always do that later. Our desire needs to be strong enough to pull us towards our goal.

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When thinking of something we want to do or want to succeed at, its important to keep in mind our ambition will play a big part. It might be our secular job, our exercise routine, or simply wanting to find a career we love. All of these areas are where our ambition will make a major impact, so take your time, work hard and be determined but most importantly have that strong desire to commit and finish what it is you are pursuing regardless of the hurdles or challenges that come your way.



Make sure you are Living

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Whenever I think about that quote, it really sends chills down my spine. Not because its something we can look at and just appreciate at a passing glance, but the reality of it really hits us at times and we choose to over look it. What does it mean to live? Rather than existing? Well the reason this hit home for me is because sometimes we really don’t realize how fragile life is. See once we are comfortable or not working hard towards some goal or dream, the comfort and the time that passes isn’t something we can get back. the most precious resource we have as humans, is time. But if we waste it, its over with.

Living is something we think we are doing when in reality sometimes we are simply just exisiting, repeating the same actions over and over, often feeling like we are in a rut. Wanting to change a rountine but never really getting around to it, always putting it off. And something we don’t think about and don’t want to do is taking a risk, maybe finding out where our talents really are, where we can have the biggest impact. But the comfort of life usually kills any thoughts of discomfort that will follow if we want to pursue a change. And rightfully so, why would we want to make our life uncomfortable? Why would we want to take risks when we can take It easy?

Because living is the reason we should pursue our dreams. If we are slaving away, working for someone else’s dreams and just getting by, do we really feel fulfilled? When we turn on the TV, and see the athletes or the people that are making a name for themselves and reaching goals, do we ever think “I wish I could do that?” I’m sure many of us have. The thing we don’t realize is, they didn’t reach their goal from a place of comfort.

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Do you think Michael Phelps reached his peak from a position of comfort? Or that Steve job started apple from a position of comfort? No! The struggle and the hard work was something they went out of their way to PURSUE. They worked hard, they knew the price and the patience and the struggle they would have to go through. Granted we only see the success, we don’t really see the hard work which usually puts the image in our mind that you have to be talented, or special to do those things. And that is where we are wrong, hard work is something that all our hero’s, people we look up to, have put in. They worked when others were asleep, they put in twice as much when others put in barely a half days work. see the only way to reach and do our best to find and pursue a dream, is to do things we haven’t done before. To try things we haven’t tried, and have always talked ourselves out of. when our mind tells us we cant do anything and we agree, it often puts limitations on us. and these limitations really come to fruition when we try to do something but already have failed in our mind. and so that carries over. The people we end up watching on TV, they worked past their limitations, they didn’t mentally stop themselves before even attempting the work needed to be put in to reach what they wanted to do with their life.

Our life is something unique to each person, so to simply exist and move along at regular pace Is something we unconsciously do. But isn’t it better to walk alone in the right direction for us, rather then the wrong direction with the majority? For instance think of something right now you know you excel at, you are good at. Now ask yourself, am I bettering myself and pursuing it? What are the challenges in the way? Are they ones that require hard work? and commitment? Is that why we are shying away? Are we perhaps putting up excuses that mentally stop us from trying? Not doing, but simply TRYING? We have to be careful not to view life as something that we can’t do anything about, because in reality we can make a difference, we can pursue our goals. People don’t want to read about the ones who inherited greatness, rather the ones who struggled and have a story that shows they worked hard to reach their goals. So next time you wake up, challenge yourself to do something different, to change your life, not simply think about it, or daydream at work later. Challenge yourself to perhaps live, instead of simply exist.chagne


well here we are a new year and surprisingly everyone is following the typical NEW YEAR NEW ME routine, of course i don’t want to exclude myself. it seems to be a mindset everyone goes into that new year with every ear but end up repeating the same mistakes/habits setting the same goals and such. but, what exactly CAN we change? of course major life changes and goals take time to pursue and to even act upon rather than just think about, but are there any changes that we can act upon and keep ourselves moving in the right direction for the whole year? and yes, i mean other than that membership at the gym you got last week but then rewarded yourself with that number 1 combo at mcfatty’s (McDonald’s i mean)….don’t worry. we’ve all been there, on the verge of making some huge monumental improvement or commitment to our personal life and….sunk back into that same routine we are so very used to and comfortable doing. so what can help us make ANY changes or any slight movement in the right direction in order to really live up to the new person and new things we want to do in the new year?!

Small goals. that’s it. small goals that are attainable are honestly a great way to boost your self-confidence and to propel you in the right direction. and small goals are things that we CAN achieve in the set time we have. not the “its 2017! i need to get ripped in the next two weeks to impress my friends!”streching-reach Which plays down to two weeks of pain and then quitting and going back to Netflix and whatever else took up our time when we were bored. No, small goals are things that you and me can accomplish and lead to accomplishing BIGGER goals. say for example your goal happens to be that you want to live a healthier life, well what are some small goals that can help work towards that? maybe getting a routine of hitting the gym 3 days a week, meal prepping a healthy meal say for those three days, or even 2 days if you want. and really committing to it. its easier to fool our mind into this by starting small. rather than jumping into a 5 day workout program, daily food intake that is recommended off that awesome website that has all these hits, why not work on something that YOU can do, not something someone else had the time to perfect for their selves? see everyone had to start somewhere right? even that person you look up to or athlete, had a beginners program or workout or small goals they worked towards before being where they are, so why not give yourself the same advantage? slowly work towards that goal and don’t give up, since our mind tends to talk us out of things fairly early on.gym_cardio_area_overlooking_greenery

“ok we get it, if we wanna work out start out small, why does any of this matter to me? my goals don’t have to do with the gym, or healthy life and such, I’m fine in that area. my goal this year, is to expand my social circle! find new friends! enjoy life!” if that’s along the lines of what you’re thinking than good for you! i wish all the best. in fact this is something i personally always try to work on. but if you’re like me, there are times where i find it hard to make friends or to go out of my way to expand my network. so what has worked for me? im sure its different for everyone, but personally for me, i find starting small again works even in the area of social interaction.new friends.jpg That’s hard for me to admit since i happen to be like the little energizer bunny, i tend to be everywhere at the same time, always mouthing off whatever comes to my mind, laughing, never taking things seriously, a little too much to handle for some. but, when it comes to making friends or reaching out to network, i try to tone things down and maybe even shut up for once. hard to believe i know, but it’s helped me gain amazing friends who later grow used to the normal side i have. the first mistake i always made was to shut out those that don’t have the same interests or anything in common with, often thinking “well there’s nothing i like that they like too….this isn’t gonna work at all.” but….gaining and making new friends and developing strong friendships is done by respecting and appreciating the differences brought to our life by new friends and such. the different things to talk about the new adventures we hear they have been on, really anything that we will be sharing will be new to one or the other. so something that hit me was that embracing the differences in fact sometimes taking part and trying that awesome new food joint your friends says is the best shawarma place ever might in fact….be the best shawarma place ever. doing everything and anything from trying new food, reading that new book, anything that really gives us a chance to try something new and appreciate our new friends makes our friendships and bonds that much stronger. so don’t be afraid in your search to try new things and to appreciate the difference that others will be bringing into your new outlook, because after all that’s how the adventures that we seek start.SDCC_2012_-_cosplayers_at_Sultan_Shawarma_(7613677308).jpg


so what are we excited for in the new year? any amazing trips planned with friends? any new courses/education goals we are taking that will lead to what we want to pursue? share if you want below! I’ll be sure to keep this blog a little more active this year!